Man to Man- Essential Skills for Men

Let’s Build A Life

  • How does God help me during my difficult times?
  • How can I find rest?
  • What am I worth?
  • How can I find hope in a hopeless situation?

Sometimes it’s hard to find answers just when we need them most.

This study is intended to be a valuable tool for discovering what God say’s about men’s particular needs and circumstances. Each week we will have thought-provoking questions, answers from Scripture, and a promise from God’s Word.

We will primarily look at The Message, New Living Translations and New King James translations of the Bible.


Get ready! Set! Go!

We live in a broken world… full of broken promises, broken dreams, broken lives. Nothing seems “altogether” anymore. In the midst of such shatteredness, however, God invites us to experience wholeness as men. Wholeness in our own life, and wholeness in our relationships with family, children, women, and man to man.

As a result, growth as whole man is anything but optional. Though Jesus was the perfect Son of God, as a young man He experienced apparent personal growth. This process, while still the God-Man, enabled Jesus Christ to relate to others so effectively (Hebrews 4:14-16).

We see this most concisely in the Bible’s description of Jesus as a teenager: “And Jesus grew in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and men” (Luke 2:52).

It is vital that we do the same.


We need proper exercise volitionally in a willing manner; “I willingly accept”


Volition .( 1. The act or an instance of making a conscious choice or decision.

2. A conscious choice or decision.

3. The power or faculty of choosing; the will.

How? Choices. Choices. Choices. We exercise our will hundreds of times a day. Some psychologists say that our generation faces the problem of “choice overload.” We are faced with too many choices. Not only must we decide preferences between options, but we also must make moral judgments between options, especially in so-called gray areas.

We need proper rest emotionally. How? A refreshing night’s sleep. Time with friends. Reading a good book. Listening to uplifting music. Quality quiet time with the Lord. Slow down (if we’ve been pushing too hard). Do more (if we’ve been too lax). Instead of riding a roller coaster every which direction, seek to balance life’s demands. Make specific plans for your next parole, even if it’s something small.

We need proper nourishment intellectually. How? Actually, Scripture has a lot to say! Awaken your mind (Romans 12:1-2). Balance your mind (1 John 4:1-6). Have a discerning mind (Hebrews 5:14). Have an enlightened mind (1 Corinthians 2:12). Protect your mind (Philippians 4:8). Occupy your mind (Ephesians 4:13).

PHYSICALLY (“and stature”)

We need proper exercise physically. How? Walk. Jog. Run. Play ball. Ride your bike a stationary bike. Work out with weights. Exercise regularly…and enjoy feeling better.

We need proper rest physically. How? Don’t push yourself too hard all the time. Get enough sleep. Take a nap if you need one (even professional athletes do this when necessary). Be consistent in your sleeping patterns; inconsistency makes you even more tired (think “jet lag”). I am a late night person and can get by on a few hours but when I crash I crash.

We need proper nourishment physically. How? Eat well. “Man does not live by bread alone.” Eat plenty of vegetables and fruits, whole grains and proteins. Junk food is okay—but only once in a while, not as a steady diet. Mostly, make healthy choices. Don’t forget…you are what you eat!

SPIRITUALLY (“with God”)

We need proper exercise spiritually. How? Get down on your knees and really pray to the Lord. Deliberately depend on God to meet your needs. Come alongside a friend who’s struggling in his faith. Invest in the lives of others in the name of Jesus Christ. Share the love of God with someone who isn’t a Christian yet.

We need proper rest spiritually. How? If a particular spiritual discipline feels “dry” take a short break from it. In its place select two or three “rest” verses to memorize and claim as your own. Favorites include“Rest in the LORD and wait patiently for Him” (Psalm 37:7a), “My soul finds rest in God alone; my salvation comes from him” (Psalm 62:1), and “He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty” (Psalm 91:1).

We need proper nourishment spiritually. How? Read God’s Word wholeheartedly, asking the Lord to speak to you. Read spiritual classics, too. Invite a wise and gracious older believer to mentor you. Another important part will be to fellowship regularly with a small group of believers who truly love God and love each other. Attend services at a vibrant local church every weekend. (In or out of prison)


Tips on Reading the Bible Daily

1. Start reading the Bible today — there is no better time, and there’s no reason to wait.
2. Set aside a specific time each day. Set your schedule and then stick to it. Mornings are great, but feel free to use any time that works consistently for you.
3. Read the Bible for the sake of learning, not simply to accomplish your next reading. Say a short prayer to God before you begin, asking the Holy Spirit to give you wisdom and understanding, then be refreshed by the words you read!


A Dream Catcher – Book

An old Indian legend says that the night air is filled with Good and Bad dreams. The dream catcher catches the dreams as they go by. The Good dreams know the way and slip through the center hole, then slide gently down the soft feathers. The Bad dreams, not knowing the way, get caught in the web and perish at first light. Dream catchers were hung on cradle boards and other place in the lodge for all to have Good dreams, Hang one above your bed..and happy happy dreaming.

For us the journal will serve this purpose. You will be challenged to keep diary of Good and Bad thoughts, dreams, hurts and more. We will use those thoughts to guide us on this spiritual journey.

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